Are there certain personalities you spend time with, and when you leave them, you feel depleted? Do you feel drained and begin to take on their negative energy? If you answered yes to these questions, you are very likely spending time with an “energy vampire.” They are people who feel so empty within themselves that they pull from your energy in an attempt to fill themselves up. They have no consideration for others and will gladly take your energy at any opportunity. Your kindness may fill them temporarily, but they soon return for a refill before you can catch your breath, and you become the empty one! You cannot, and will not, “fix” this person and make them feel better, they have to do the internal work themselves.
So how do you keep your own energy tank full while spending time with these personalities? Boundaries, boundaries and more boundaries! Tell them NO, guilt free. They will very likely not listen to you, and attempt to cross the boundary anyway, but you need to stand your ground. Don’t answer the phone when that tenth call of the day comes in, tell them it’s not a good time when they come to your door, stop the conversation when you’ve been listening nonstop for hours. These are just some examples, I’m sure you have your own experiences. The main thing is that you set limits in order to preserve your own healthy balance.
Don’t allow ANYONE to steal your peace. It is your birthright to live a life full of happiness. Embrace it!