Ok guys, I promised you your own midlife post after I wrote Men-O-Pause! Here is your day to shine, and truly, there is no pun intended in the title. Although, it did make me laugh as I wrote it.:) I’ve always found it interesting that as women reach midlife they seem to gather a sudden inner strength. At the same time, men seem to become kinder and gentler. Yes, softer. Early on in life boys are raised to believe they must be the gatherers and create an environment where their families are protected and cared for. This includes bringing in “dough” for family survival. So much focus appears to be on their job, career and notoriety. As midlife approaches I believe men and women both take a look at their lives and ask, “what’s it all about?” or “is this it?” With men, there begins a shift of sorts, to appreciate and enjoy life and the people in their life more. Rather than the big race to be the “big cheese” I have witnessed a slowing down to take it all in. Maybe it’s what life does to you. Experience humbles one’s soul. You can’t live life without falls, and with each fall a lesson is learned. Hopefully, for the better.
Well, what? Did you think I was going to talk about fast cars, hot chicks and wild parties? THAT is part of the lesson that allows one to grow and eventually find the soft side. Men in that stage haven’t quite reached the gold mine of spirit, but they are living those experiences to reach the soft-ness. Some never come out of that stage as that may be their destiny. For the most part, however, most men reach this sensitivity, the “feminine” piece of their core. It is a pleasant discovery as they feel more peaceful and grounded. The funny dichotomy is that as women become emotionally stronger men become more mellow. The yin yang never quite leaves us. Always the dance. Always learning from each other.
So, men, get out there and wallow in your soft side! It is a quality that those around you feel and appreciate. You have arrived to the calmer side of life. Take it all in and Enjoy!