” I loved Susan from the moment she was born, and I love her now and every minute in between. And what I dream of is a man who will discover her, and that she will discover a man who will love her, who is worthy of her, who is of this world, this time and has the grace, compassion, and fortitude to walk beside her as she makes her way through this beautiful thing called life.” ~ Quote from the movie, Meet Joe Black
Last night, as I perused the channels, I came across what is possibly my favorite movie of all time, Meet Joe Black. It has a mixture of life’s checks and balances; real love, false love, anger, deception, death and most touching to me, the love a father has for his daughter. The quote above is William Parrish’s (played by Anthony Hopkins) description of the depth of a father’s love. For anyone who has had a father such as this, you are blessed. You have experienced a love that has nurtured you in a way to recognize real love when it enters your life. Recognition and choice are two separate entities, however. We can be given all the love and tools available to choose wisely but it is ultimately up to you to love yourself enough and remember what that real love felt like. Real love is unconditional, it is full of forgiveness, it is acceptance and nonjudgment, no matter what. Real love lives forever and always bounces back. Even when angry, the blow softens and is replaced with the heart. Real love is taking yourself out of the equation and wanting true happiness for the other. Real love is real.
I had a father like William Parrish. He may not have been as emotionally expressive, but his actions spoke louder than his words. Always there, always available, always on time. Always with his hand held out to save me from drowning, yet allowed me the freedom to learn my own lessons. Always with a full heart and never asked for anything in return. I felt the unconditional, strong love William had for Susan. My Father’s love, a true blessing.
Whether you have had a father similar to William Parrish, or not, remember to love and respect yourself enough to choose one who is capable of giving you the love you deserve. One who is worthy of you and the love you give. Your heart doesn’t lie. It will tell you if real love has entered your life. Real love enhances your life and flows with effortless energy. Just as the sun provides to a blossoming flower. False love zaps all energy and leaves you depleted as you second guess all your efforts. Treat yourself like the precious flower that you are and you will attract those that treat you the same.
Our roots lay our foundation. It is up to us to choose how our garden flourishes. Plant seeds of love in your own heart and experience the beauty of life!