Archive | August 2010

The Games People Play

“Whatever games are played with us, we must play no games with ourselves, but deal in our privacy with the last honesty and truth.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

A client came into my office the other day, sat down, looked me in the eye and said, “I think I’m going crazy.”  She proceeded to tell me that her intuition, and actions of her partner, are telling her old habits are creeping up again.  She has no solid proof that her partner is into his addiction again, but it’s a feeling.  She proceeds to tell me that every time she confronts him on it he gets defensive and turns it back around onto her.

When your intuition speaks, it is Spirit knocking at your door, giving you a wake up call.  Trust in your own truth and allow self-care to follow.  My client and I reviewed her own life lesson she is learning through this difficult time.  Most importantly, she is aware that she cannot do the work for her partner or force him to make healthier choices.   He has to have his own desire to change and do the work himself, just as my client needs to focus on herself and increase her own strength in making healthy choices.  One choice may be getting out of an unhealthy relationship.  As she does her own work, and begins the healing process, she will find that she is surrounded by like-minded, like-spirited people.  We are all capable of creating our own happiness.

Be truthful with your heart and follow the messages it gives you.  When we are honest with ourselves, we honor our purpose here on earth.  Nurture the precious being that you are and refuse to allow anyone to abuse your kindness.  Create your own world of  joy, light and love, and watch it all unfold…

An Optimum Spine Equals Optimum Health

Join me tomorrow, August 28th, 12pm-1pm on WWLZ 820am, The Talk Station!  My guest will be Dr. Bob Berry from Advanced Family Chiropractic.  We will be covering many topics on chiropracty and overall wellness, including how an optimum spine equals optimum health. Calls are encouraged and welcomed during the show @ 607-732-4820 or 1-866-732-4820.

Next week, my guest will be Sarah, an intuitive medium who will be answering questions and providing mini-readings for those of you calling in, so get your questions ready!

Looking forward to hearing from you…as always, providing help, hope and healing.  Wishing you all a day full of light, life & love!

The Fairy-Tale Relationship

“I used to be Snow White, but I drifted.”  ~Mae West

As I was chatting with a friend the other day, she blurts out, “If  I could just find the right guy, everything would be fine!”  “Oh, really?”, I replied.  We went on to discuss relationships, the stages, the expectations, and yes, fairy-tales.  I finally said to her, “The fairy-tale relationship is with yourself!  All other relationships fall into place after that.”  As children, we watched this, the good, the bad, and the ugly.  In the end, the good always wins and the princess and prince charming ride off on the white horse to live happily ever after.  What they don’t show us is the “ever after”.  The ups and downs, the excitement that turns mundane, the day-to-day living that becomes a schedule.  But then, what kind of movie would that be?  Most of us are looking for some kind of fantasy in our lives.   Fairy-tales are an escape that are healthy for the imagination, but if we think life will really play out that way disappointment will present itself more often than not.  As the saying goes, “expectations lead to resentments.”

So how do we live life in reality and still enjoy it to the fullest?  Imagination is a wonderful thing, if we can just leave out the expectations and focus on what is healthiest for ourselves first.  Find your own center in the quiet and allow Spirit to guide you.  What have YOU always wanted to do in your life?  What brings you joy?  The more you can sit with yourself , and enjoy your own company, the sooner you will be content in any relationship.  Loving yourself first is the precursor to a peaceful, contented life.

When I look at Mae West’s quote, I think, right on!  It’s not about being who you are expected to be, it’s about living the life you know is right for you.  Mae was always known for coming out with these side quotes, with certain connotations, and she never apologized for who she was.  A woman unto herself.  She’d be the first to admit, she was no Snow White.  Not afraid to live her shadow side and experience her own journey.

The fairy-tale relationship IS with yourself.  Find your passion, your joy, your peace, and be mindful of what that is.  Never forget YOU and all other relationships will become icing on your fairy-tale cake.

Believe In Your Heart

A friend of mine sent me this poem today.  I thought it was so beautiful;  full of love, strength and trustWorthy to pass on.  Please take some time to truly read this, breathe it in and sit with the words.  We are all worth the energy to love and be loved. Believe in your heart, believe in yourself, believe that you are exactly where you are meant to be, right here, right now.  Be at peace….

Believe in your heart that
something wonderful is about to happen.
Love your life.
Believe in your own powers,
and your own potential,
and in your own innate goodness.
Wake every morning
with the awe of just being alive.
Discover each day the magnificent,
awesome beauty in the world.
Explore and embrace life in yourself
and in everyone you see each day.
Reach within to find your own specialness.
Amaze yourself and rouse those around you
to the potential of each new day.
Don’t be afraid to admit
that you are less than perfect;
this is the essence of your humanity.
Let those who love you help you.
Trust enough to be able to take.
Look with hope to the horizon of today,
for today is all we truly have.
Live this day well.
Let a little sun out as well as in.
Create your own rainbows.
Be open to all your possibilities;
all possibilities and Miracles.
Always believe in Miracles.

Have a lovely Monday and great week ahead, my dear friends !!

~In Love and Light, thank you Green Valley:)

Children & Emotional Wellness in Divorce

Tune in with me on The Talk Station, WWLZ 820am, Saturday, August 21st, 12pm-1pm! My guest will be Susan Daubner, divorce and family law attorney with Ziff Law Firm. We will be discussing emotional wellness for children dealing with divorce and separation. Calls are welcome at 607-732-4820 or 1-866-732-4820.This is local to Horseheads/Elmira/Corning listeners. For those of you out of the area, I will be posting the show to this blog.

Next week, August 28th, I will be interviewing Dr. Bob Berry from Advanced Family Chiropractic.  We will be discussing the benefits of an optimal spine and how it affects overall health and wellness.

As always, providing help, hope and healing.  Wishing you all a salubrious day!

I Will Always Love You

Remember Whitney Houston?  One of my all time favorite voices, blessed with an innate raw talent.  It’s amazing what addiction can do. Brings you to your knees. “I Will Always Love You” was written by Dolly Parton in 1973 and was brought back to life in 1992 when Whitney opened hearts with it in the film, The Bodyguard. Wishing you joy and love, Whitney…

Soul Mirror

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)

I found some quiet, alone time late last night as I experienced “Eat, Pray, Love” at the theater.  The film is very close to the book as it covers forgiveness, love, loneliness, self soothing, letting go, fear, trust, emotional pain, and exploring your own truth.
I believe soul mates come into our lives in many different forms at different times, when we require a particular lesson.  Some remain through our lifetime, some come and go, and some we know only for a brief time.  All mirrors are valuable lessons, the key is recognizing your own shadow in what your soul mate is dancing for you.  Allow the joy, anger, pain, laughter, frustration, and euphoria to settle and rest with your spirit.  Even when you feel lost, you are simply riding your waves to the lighthouse.
Look in the mirror.  What do you see?  Ahh, the unveiling of you and me.

The Purpose in Living

How do you know when you are living “on purpose”?  The universe always lets you know.  Your life seems to flow effortlessly, all endeavors seem to fall into place and you feel centered and at peace.  When you experience this flow an inner strength ensues and you feel nothing can pull you off your thread.  When we are mindful of this, and accept it with grace and gratitude, the flow continues….until the human side of life steps in.

As spiritual beings living a human existence, the reality is that we all fall off our thread at times in our lives.  The important thing to remember is that it really is okay.  It’s called life and experiencing all it has to offer.  Some experiences are dark and some are light.  Take what you need in this learning and leave the rest.  It’s never too late to step back on your purpose train and feel the power behind your soul’s engine.  N0-thing in life is a failure, they are all simply lessons along your path in finding your way.  Your way, no one elses.

In living your purpose there will be many bumps in the road.  Continue to live, repair the bumps as you move along, with time and heart the road will open up for a smoother ride.  Your purpose is now.

“Try not to try too hard, it’s just a lovely ride…”  ~James Taylor, The Secret O’ Life

Spontaneous Combustion

Remember to insert JOY into your life today!  Spontaneity allows the natural flow of our feelings to burst into the effervescence of life. Constraint holds its purpose in situations just as the complete release of freedom does.  Maintaining balance in your everyday existence creates a fuller, healthier you.

Open your heart, your mind, your soul, and experience the taste, the touch, the feel of life!

When God Made Me

These are two of my favorite Neil Young songs.  “Four Strong Winds” & “When God Made Me” …Neil is an artist all unto himself.  Below are the lyrics for “When God Made Me”,  written with truth and compassion for all living in this world.  Wishing you all a peaceful, blessed day…

“When God Made Me”

Was he thinkin’ about my country
Or the color of my skin?
Was he thinkin’ ’bout my religion
And the way I worshipped him?
Did he create just me in his image
Or every living thing?

When God made me
When God made me

Was he planning only for believers
Or for those who just have faith?
Did he envision all the wars
That were fought in his name?
Did he say there was only one way
To be close to him?

When God made me
When God made me

Did he give me the gift of love
To say who I could choose?

When God made me
When God made me

When God made me
When God made me

Did he give me the gift of voice
So some could silence me?
Did he give me the gift of vision
Not knowing what I might see?
Did he give me the gift of compassion
To help my fellow man?

When God made me
When God made me

When God made me
When God made me

Unfortunately, this video is not available through the tag I was given.  If you are interested in hearing these two songs go to and search Neil Young, When God Made Me.  Trust me, you will not be disappointed:)