“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves, regret for the past and fear of the future.”
The title is a great acronym, isn’t it? I’ve heard of it coming out of many 12 step rooms, dealing with addiction. Of course, I used the “cleaner” version, but you get the point. I’m talking about FEAR today because it appears to be so prevalent in our society, my counseling office, and everyday life. When will it be time for you to let go of your past, forgive those who have wronged you, and move on to your future, fearlessly?
I will tell you when that time will come. When you can truly forgive not only those who have hurt you but when you can forgive yourself. When we hold on to anger toward another person, or people, or situations, it’s ironic how you internalize that anger, only to inflict the same hurts onto yourself and others. Until you truly work to make change, accept your part in the scenario, and look fear in its monstrous face, your lesson will never be learned. The pattern will continue in its never-ending battle. Stop in your tracks and look inward. What do you see? All the answers are hidden beneath the layers of your life. Peel back each experience fearlessly, un-learn the hurts, take control of your own life and feel the freedom it brings.
Stand up, look in the mirror, look yourself straight in the eye and ask yourself, “Is this the first day of the rest of my life?” Your choice. We always make a choice.