The Affliction of Addiction

Addiction is a nasty bug and once it gets its hooks in you it refuses to let go.  Add in the ego which thrives on weakness, and you have a lethal dose of insanity.  As the genius Albert Einstein reminded us many moons ago, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”  Many people have the misconception that ego is full of confidence and direction but it is quite the contrary.  Ego is  an insecure  little child who wants what he wants and will stop at nothing to claim the attention that he craves.  Often, attention one never received in his formative years.  This starvation reaches toward outer avenues to feed the hunger.  The mind trains itself (fostered by ego) to think that if I take that drink, or have sex, or eat that hot fudge sundae,  or purge, all my problems will go away.  Any of you stuck in this cycle know that it is, once again, a trick of the mind and a temporary fix that only gets worse and more chaotic down the road.  When you wake up from your inflicted numbing your problems are still there and you’ve only created more problems feeding your addiction.  How much energy does it take to cover your tracks?  How much chaos have you created along the way?  How many loved ones have you hurt keeping up with your craving?  How much hurt have you inflicted upon yourself?  There is hope.  All this energy put into feeding this monster can be redirected and geared toward healthy choices in your life.

It has been said that you remain stagnate at the age you were when you first started using your “drug.”  Growth cannot, and will not, occur until you get clean and mature with the tools you need to recover and claim a healthier lifestyle.  The first step is admitting you have a problem.  That is when humility steps up and pushes ego aside.  The second step is reaching out and asking for help.  There are many rehabilitation facilities and programs to assist you in staying on your course to sobriety.  The third step is staying on your course, one day at a time.  There is a better life for you if you take these steps and stay with it.  This I can promise you.  Allow Spirit to guide you, step outside of yourself, have faith, and your hope will not be lost.

Below are the 12 steps followed by many programs dealing with addiction.  The steps were developed by Sam Shoemaker and Bill Wilson, originally printed in the book, Alcoholics Anonymous, back in 1939.  It has saved more lives  than can be counted.

The 12 Steps

  • Step 1We admitted we were powerless over our addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable
  • Step 2Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
  • Step 3Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God
  • Step 4Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
  • Step 5Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
  • Step 6Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
  • Step 7Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings
  • Step 8Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all
  • Step 9Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others
  • Step 10Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
  • Step 11Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out
  • Step 12Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs

From A Distance

“From A Distance” was my Dad’s favorite song shortly before he left this earth.  It’s no wonder, as he grew even closer to God, the message rang true and clear.  May it be a reminder for all of us…peace to all people on earth.  Love is a guide.  Love is a healer.  Love is all there is….

~From A Distance, sung by Bette Midler, written by Julie Gold

It’s Never Too Late

“There’s a wonderful Turkish proverb that succinctly relates a message underlying both the movie version of The Shift and the book of the same name. It says, “No matter how far you have gone on a wrong road, turn back.” It doesn’t matter how long we’ve allowed ourselves to travel the road of our false self. We know when it isn’t leading us to a sense of purpose and significance, and we can admit we’re on the wrong path. The awareness that our life lacks Meaning is more than enough evidence that it’s time to make a U-turn.

In The Shift movie, I relate how I found the road that resonated with the calling of my soul. I did so by listening to what I was feeling deep within me, rather than what my ego was saying to me about how to capitalize on my fame by writing books to make more money. By trusting my inner excitement, I was able to make a big shift in my life, a real U-turn, away from writing about psychology to writing about living life from a spiritual orientation. That shift away from the Ambition of ego, which tried to control my writing and speaking career, put me on the path of Meaning.

When you turn away from ego control, what is it that you trust to guide you? There are three markers to look for on this road—trust in yourself, trust in others, and trust in the Source of being. When you trust in yourself, you listen to your soul speak and hear what your intuition or the “voice within” is saying. When you trust in others, you practice noninterference and free yourself from trying to control others who have their own inner voice to follow. When you trust in the Source of being, you trust the mystery of creation. The universal Source of all creation, invisible though it may be, guides you just as it guided your development in the womb. When you trust in Divine intelligence, you cooperate and invite the shift to Meaning. ”     ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

For those of you who know me,  you know that I have loved Wayne Dyer for many  years.  He is a caring, giving being walking this earth with so much love in his heart.  No matter your lot in life, he encourages one to find their heart’s desire.  Their truth.  No judgment along your path, only acceptance, wherever you are.  His books, DVD’s, and CD’s have carried me through so much in my life.  His voice is calming and his wisdom is comforting.  My sister and I had the pleasure of seeing him speak in person a few months ago, what a numinous night that was!  Love was entering from ALL directions, including our Dad.  Thank you, Wayne, for being the angel that you are!  Namaste…

Trusting Your Intuitive Self

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”  ~ Albert Einstein

The intuitive self.  An amazing tool, if used.  There are many gifts residing within each and every one of us.  It’s just a matter of tapping into our inner voice.  The conscious mind steers our rational, trained thoughts.  The unconscious mind allows what the soul knows to come through.  ALWAYS trust the soul’s wisdom, it will not let you down.  When a thought comes to you out of nowhere, don’t ignore it.  Sit with it, allow the thought to show itself and FEEL what enters.  Your intuition is sharpest when your mind is quiet.  Racing through your day with no meditative breaks  will push away whispers from your soul.  Take the time to sit in the quiet, meditate, write in your journal, listen to soft music while sitting in the garden.  Find your quiet place and allow your intuition to work its magic.  It will guide you, all you have to do is listen and follow it!  I have found that my intuition is at its peak when I write.  The practice of tuning into my inner thoughts and living everyday in spiritual practice has opened my spirit up to the universe.  I am in awe of the love, kindness and generosity that has boomeranged back to me.

Where is it that your intuition “hits” you the most?  Funny enough, mine is in the shower as the water streams over me.  No surprise as I am the fish, a swimmer most of my life and a Pisces.  There is just something about the water that calms me and allows all pathways to enter.  I imagine it washes away other unwanted energy as well.  Thoughts come to me when I’m riding alone in my car or sitting in my kitchen writing, as I am now.  Find your place that allows your connection to Spirit to flow.  Take some time out everyday to tune in.  Ask your servant to go sit down and allow your gift to overflow.  Fulfillment will follow.

Living in Gratitude

“Wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving”  ~Kahlil Gibran

What are you grateful for in your life?  Write your gratitude list and you may be surprised how full your cup is.  There is so much around us, even on those difficult days, that remind us how wonderful life truly is!  Make your list, write it down, LOOK at it, feel it and allow your heart to fill with LOVE!

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed.  Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.”   ~Denis Waitley


The answer might be


but the solution is always


Acceptance – the highest

form of intelligence           ~The Silence

When we truly accept who one is, how it is, what it is and why it is….inner peace always follows….

We may not have the answer on how we arrived.  We don’t need one.  What is, is.  As simple as that.

Find Your Feather

Oftentimes, as I am on my walk, I come upon something of meaning to me.  It may be a butterfly fluttering between the wildflowers, crickets singing in the background, or a frog leaping into the water puddles on the side of the road.  But most significant to me are the feathers I find along my path.  They always show up when I need them most.  On a day when I’m feeling out of sorts and unsure of my direction Spirit sends me this gift.  As I’m walking along, deep in thought, I look down….and there is my feather!  It always amazes me, like the first time.  My heart flutters, I smile, pick it up and carry it with me as I stroke every strand, feeling the strength of Spirit.  It is a reminder that angels are always around me  and God is guiding me every step of the way.  I don’t have to carry the heaviness or know the answers.  I can let go.  What a relief to truly believe that!  My day always starts over with a renewed sense of gratitude and inner security.

So what is it that you find along your path that reminds you of Spirit’s guiding light?  Look around you, be aware and know that it is there.  Feel your own perfection.  You are worth being loved, you deserve to receive and you deserve to enjoy the life that you have been given.

Every time I look at my feathers in the various special places in my house and office my soul reconfirms my connection to Spirit, and  I am filled with gratitude.  Look around, find your “feather”, it is there for you too!  Namaste.

Enjoy the Ride

“The secret of  life is enjoying the passage of time”  ~James Taylor

If you ever really listen to James Taylor’s song, “Secret O’ Life”, you will feel the mystery, the miracles, the letting go.  I picture a free-falling and a trust that Spirit is going to catch me mid-air.  It is a trust that you are okay wherever you turn.  There are no mistakes, just lessons and opportunities as we ride the waves.  Sometimes, we have to struggle to our feet, scrape ourselves off and allow healing to take place…and get right back into the tumble.  Sometimes, as we flow, miracles happen that we never could have imagined possible.  A mystery.  Something completely out of our control.  So go ahead.  Experience LIFE.   Go with whatever may come your way.  Enjoy the ride.

“Try not to try too hard, it’s just a lovely ride”  ~James Taylor

The Gift of Crisis

“Be thankful. You won’t be confronted with a crisis you can’t handle. The next time you’re confronted with what appears to be a crisis, just ask yourself, “What is the hidden blessing?” The deeper you look, the easier you will find it. When you do, you can say “good-bye” to its corresponding frustration, anger and depression. No tree stood strong without the wind. No person can be strong without a challenge.”  ~Dr. John Demartini

What difficulty have you experienced in your life that has brought you to your next level?  Every passage, every step you take contributes to the person you are today.  It is often the most painful times that create a strength within that pushes us to tackle that which we fear the most.  We tell ourselves, “hey, if I can make it through that the next task can’t be so hard.”  And often it isn’t.  Every crisis in our life can be turned into a gift.  It’s all how you view your potential as you move through the difficulty.  Always remind yourself that “this too shall pass”, and you will be better off for it.  I realize it’s not easy to think positively when something negative is happening around you but think in those terms and it will pass quicker than you can imagine.  It’s all a matter of perspective and we receive exactly what we perceive.

Acknowledge all gifts that the universe sends you….joyful, painful, blissful, monumental.  Express gratitude for the opportunity to build upon your spiritual core and reach your potential.  The sky is the limit!

I Shall Be Released

They say ev’rything can be replaced,
Yet ev’ry distance is not near.
So I remember ev’ry face
Of ev’ry man who put me here.
I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.

They say ev’ry man needs protection,
They say ev’ry man must fall.
Yet I swear I see my reflection
Some place so high above this wall.
I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.

Standing next to me in this lonely crowd,
Is a man who swears he’s not to blame.
All day long I hear him shout so loud,
Crying out that he was framed.
I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.

~ Bob Dylan, 1967

No further words needed when Bob Dylan writes.