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The Pleasure Seeker

The pleasure principle is the psychoanalytic concept describing people seeking pleasure and avoiding suffering (pain) in order to satisfy their biological and psychological needs. The counterpart concept, the reality principle, describes people choosing to defer gratification of a desire when circumstantial reality disallows its immediate gratification. Maturity is learning to endure the pain of deferred gratification, when reality requires it;  an ego thus educated has become ‘reasonable’;  it no longer lets itself be governed by the pleasure principle, but obeys the reality principle, which also seeks to obtain pleasure, but pleasure which is assured through taking account of reality, even though it is pleasure postponed and diminished.  ~ Sigmund Freud

Where is the true fulfillment in seeking constant pleasure?  What is discovered over time is that it is fleeting, and in the end, leaves one with a feeling of emptiness, depression and boredom.  For the constant pleasure seeker, addictive behaviors emerge as they attempt to top their last fix.  Predatory and manipulative actions take precedence as the seeker avoids the inevitable…a look in the mirror.

Any time we think we can hide from our feelings, fears and deep dark secrets, we are mistaken.  We may run to avoid feeling the pain but we are only fooling ourselves.  The pain is still there, it is just manifesting as a pressure cooker ready to blow.  When we confront our feelings, including our painful past, we are allowing the wounds to scab over and heal.  Can it be an arduous process?  Yes.  Is it worth every tearful, angry, frustrating discovery?  Yes.  The only way to move through the mountain is to climb to its highest peak and back down.  No short cuts.  It takes work to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but remaining in the tunnel with tiny glimpses of light will only send you home with a load of inner loneliness at the end of the day.

Seek balance in your life.  Pleasure is a beautiful thing, combined with self-reflection, humanity and creativity.  When we live a life of consistent seeking we lose all values and decency as we search for the self-serving egotistical high. Not only are we hurting ourselves but we end up abusing others on our path to destruction.  Dig deep, connect with Spirit, ask for guidance, bring meaning into your life and it will be a life worth living.


Help, Hope & Healing Talk Radio; Soul Connectors, Meditation & Self Healing

To listen to my show on Soul Connectors, Meditation & Self Healing, simply click on the link below.  This show will also be archived under “AM-WWLZ820 Talk Radio” , titled, “Soul Connectors, Meditation & Self Healing with Cynthia Brennen, LMSW”. 


*My show with Adam DeYoung has been rescheduled for May 21st, 2011.  Tune in with us then for more meditation, yoga, chakra healing & self-realization.  Namaste:)

Blog Talk Radio with Adam DeYoung & Cynthia Brennen; Healing and Moving On…

To listen to the audio archive of this show simply click on “Healing and Moving On” under Adam’s photo….

Join Adam DeYoung and I on his Blog Talk Radio Show Tonight, 9:30pm EST (6:30pm Pacific).  Adam will be interviewing me on addictions, self-love, abuse, forgiveness, unconditional love….Healing and Moving On…Hope to see you there!  Peace to you, friends~



Some of the topics that we will be exploring, Addiction, Traumas, Physical Abuse/ Sexual Abuse, Forgiveness,  Love, Unconditional Love. My Guest Speaker, Cindy Brennen,  has her masters degree in Social Work and is licensed in the state of New York where she enjoys her private practice in counseling….

WWLZ820am Interview with Carolyn Hennecy & Orange Blossom Wishes; Child Molested, Woman Abused

To listen to my Help, Hope & Healing compelling interview with Carolyn Hennecy, simply click on the link below.

This show is also archived under my link, “AM WWLZ820 Talk Radio”, titled, “Carolyn Hennecy & Orange Blossom Wishes; Child Molested, Woman Abused.”


Carolyn Hennecy & Orange Blossom Wishes: Child Molested, Woman Abused

Tune in to Help, Hope & Healing, WWLZ820am, Saturday, February 19th, 12-1pm EST.  My guest, Carolyn Hennecy, will be discussing her heartfelt memoir, Orange Blossom Wishes, and her victorious journey as a survivor and beyond.  If you, or someone you know, has experienced domestic violence Carolyn is a strength and inspiration that will guide you in releasing your own freedom.  As always, calls are welcome during the show at 607-732-4820 or 1-866-732-4820. Hope to hear from you as we help in your healing.  Peace.

Snoopy kissesScripps-Howard National Journalism Award

Orange Blossom Wishes

Orange Blossom Wishes

Will inspire and teach others that even in the midst of anguish and distress, the future holds an abundance of joy and peace, if we are willing to release the past to go there.

In April 2010, Carolyn was selected as one of five women in the nation to represent Verizon as a VOICES member and domestic violence survivor at the Annual International Family Justice Alliance Conference. There, she participated as part of a panel discussing long-term support for domestic violence victims and survivors. One of the original members of the group, she serves as Co-Chair of the VOICES Advocacy Group of the Family Justice Center of Hillsborough County, in the Tampa Bay area. She is also a member of the Sexual Violence Task Force of Tampa Bay Speakers Bureau. ABC Action News is currently shadowing Carolyn as she completes the FJC Gift of Presence Chaplaincy Program, and will be featured on their Emmy award-winning primetime special, “Taking Action Against Domestic Violence.”

Hennecy prefers to see herself as inspirational and spiritual without being religious, touching secular and non-secular venues alike. While working as an advocate for abuse and domestic violence awareness, Carolyn is convinced victims desire more than endless lists of statistics. They are looking for a fellow traveler who can encourage them to believe there is a light at the end of their tunnel of darkness. She has assuredly “been there, done that.” Whether through her writing, public speaking and appearances, or interviews, Hennecy is an acclaimed motivator, inspiring and encouraging countless individuals while sharing her own experiences and triumphs.

Carolyn has spoken at conferences, and served as a guest speaker for charitable organizations and functions, and is a spokesperson for the American Heart Association. She is a weekly blogger for Everyday Health on the topics of Living With Heart Disease and Emotional Wellbeing, as well as generating a successful blog on domestic/intimate partner violence, child abuse/molestation and sexual assault on her website. Hennecy uses personal adversities, peppered with humor and southern flavor, to restore hope, faith and joy for others. With her innate ability to bring forth laughter and reflection simultaneously, she is known for her contagious outgoing personality and drive to encourage, inspire and incite others to excellence

Visit Carolyn’s website at http://www.orangeblossomwishes.com where you can see pictures of numerous events and comments regarding her work in the area of domestic violence awareness.

Breaking the Silence in Domestic Violence with Neal Desch, PhD

To listen to my Help, Hope & Healing radio show with Dr. Desch, simply go to the link, AM- WWLZ820 Talk Radio, and click on the topic, “Breaking the Silence in Domestic Violence with Neal Desch, PhD.”  This was an excellent, informative show sprinkled with antidotes that just may save many lives.  May you all have peace in your lives in days to come….

Breaking the Silence with Neal Desch, PhD

Join me and my guest, Neal Desch,PhD, on Help, Hope & Healing, WWLZ820am, Saturday, January 22nd, 12-1pm EST. We will be addressing the impact of domestic violence and breaking the silence!  As a counseling professional, an ex police officer, and someone who has lost his sister to domestic violence, Dr. Desch will provide guidelines in abuse prevention and self-esteem enhancement.  As always, calls are welcome during the show at 607-732-4820 or 1-866-732-4820.  Wishing you all a day of peace…

Life Improvement Seminars 

Dr. Neal E. Desch

Founder and President

Dr Neal Desch - author of Marriage or Mistake


In the late 1980’s Neal Desch was completing his doctorate degree while working as a behavioral counselor for a national weight loss company. His honest and straightforward style of counseling won him praise from the company, other counselors and many of his clients who would also come to him with personal problems.

Neal also organized and facilitated a support group called The Rebounders at a local church in which he invited anyone who was dealing with any of life’s setbacks. His self empowering positive reinforcement approach to various difficulties in life quickly earned him a reputation for being a no-nonsense straightforward counselor who got people motivated and most importantly got results. His reputation quickly grew and he was being asked to speak at many organization and institutions.

The Rebounders eventually developed into a business called Life improvement Seminars. Neal took many of the core principles of self empowerment and organized them into over 40 effective one hour and three-hour seminars. These seminars were so successful Neal found himself presenting them at fortune 500 companies, universities, numerous school districts and even one prison system.

Neal has appeared on The Phil Donahue ShowThe Geraldo Rivera Show, The Jane Whitney ShowThe Les Brown Show and the New Jersey Network for Better Living as well as many local television and radio shows in the New Jersey/ New York City area.

In 2000 Neal moved to Florida and put Life Improvement Seminars on hold. Neal took a position as a director in a senior citizen community, but now in 2010 he is reactivating Life Improvement Seminars.

Breaking the Silence

Join me and my guest, Neal Desch, on Help, Hope & Healing, WWLZ820am, Saturday, Nov 13th, 12-1pm EST. Neal and I will be addressing the impact of domestic violence and breaking the silence! Feel free to call Neal and I anytime during the show with your questions and comments; 607-732-4820 or 1-866-732-4820 nationwide calls are welcome. Be kind to yourself and others, today and everyday….Peace

WWLZ is a radio station located in Elmira, NY, in the the United States. The station broadcasts on 820, and is popularly known as

Domestic Violence, WWLZ820am Radio Show, 10-2-10

Providing help, hope and healing to those living in domestic violence and abuse situations.  To listen to my interview with Candice Dockstader, coordinator of the Domestic Violence Net Shelter and Abuse Program in Steuben Co., simply go to the category, “AM-WWLZ820 Talk Radio” and click on the link, “Domestic Violence”.

Wishing you all a peaceful day.

Domestic Violence

Tune in with me on Help, Hope & Healing, WWLZ820am Talk Radio, Saturday, October 2nd, 12-1pm!  My guest will be Candice Dockstader, coordinator of the Domestic Violence Net Shelter and Abuse Program in Steuben County.  Abuse is alive and prevalent in our society and it presents itself in many forms.  If you, or someone you know, are a victim of abuse this show may save your life!  We will be answering questions such as;

What is Domestic Violence?

Why does the victim not leave the abuser?

What is the Net Shelter and how can I access it?

October is  Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Let’s participate, be aware, and affect change with abuse!  Although the show is local to central New York,  I strongly urge your calls, no matter where you live.  Candice and I will be happy  to help you change your life!  The number to  call during the show is 607-732-4820 or 1-866-732-4820.

Next week, my guest will be Dream Momma,a Jungian Dream Analyst who will assist you in unraveling your dreams and provide meaning to messages in your dream state!