Full Forgiveness is Felt in the Heart

Recently, I had a client who told me she forgave her mother but she still had some residual feelings that were gnawing at her every time she thought about their relationship. My client asked, “Does that mean I haven’t really forgiven her?” After thinking about the many years I’ve sat in my therapist chair listening to countless stories of pain and enlightenment, as well as my up-close and personal experiences with forgiveness, I’ve come to this conclusion. Forgiveness is a process. It begins in your mind and has a need to settle there for a while in order to give your brain a chance to accept and embrace what is to come. We know that forgiveness is mainly about healing yourself, especially your heart. When we release from another’s hold on us it really is freeing, and extremely empowering. When the mind ultimately believes in the truth of its forgiveness it begins to travel to the heart. I explained to my client that she is preparing to travel further into her forgiveness, but first we must work through some of those residual issues and release. Once released, we then do the inner work to fill those gaps that never got filled in childhood. It is never too late to learn to nurture yourself, but first you must truly let go of the resentments seething inside and realize your healing is solely (and soul-y) up to you now. Whether your parents did the best they could, or they didn’t, it’s time to let that go and give yourself a fresh start.

Once your mind assimilates into forgiveness and journeys to the heart, you will feel a peacefulness you haven’t felt before. Your soul smiles knowing that you have received the message of love that stands before you. All feels right in the world because all resentments have been lifted. You’ve let go and blown the heaviness of your burdens into the universe, reaching the completion of full forgiveness.

So when my client asks me if she hasn’t really forgiven because she still has some residual resentments, I simply look at her and say, “Your mind just hasn’t caught up with your heart yet.” And her soul smiles.

Letting Go

 

Cherish new beginnings….

“I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be.” ~Lisa Brooks

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You’re Right About That

The choice to let go and let God, in a quest to eliminate our attachment to being right, is simplified with these few words: You’re right about that. – Dr. Wayne Dyer

If we all could learn to say, “you’re right about that” more often there would be a lot more understanding in this world.  Just saying this phrase opens you up to listen, not judge, accept, and learn.  Learn that your attachment to being right isn’t the answer.  That is only ego puffing out his little chest.  In practicing being open you just might learn something of value.

When we have to be “right” we block all other information from entering our conscious and unconscious mind.  Imagine what we might miss in this stubborn process!  I learn from you, you learn from me, and maybe, just maybe, we can work together and journey to a productive outcome.

Ego attachment leaves you alone and lonely.  While you are sitting with yourself in your legendary mind remember that it takes love, caring, forgiveness and giving service to others to feel whole again.  We are all a part of each other, open to working and creating together.  Dictation and separation only leaves pieces of fluff floating in the air.  Do you choose to be whole and full or empty and scattered?  Always your choice.

So….even though I suggest you not attach to ego, if you look at me and say, “I like my ego and I have to be right!”, I just might say to you, “you’re right about that.”  Imagine the conversation that could unfold.  Maybe, just maybe, we will learn from each other.

It’s Time To Let It Go…

“I never jumped in and rescued you,
but I wanted to
I didn’t tell you which way to go,
’cause I thought you’d know…

I never told you I told you so, but I told you so

Have to let it go
It’s time to let it go”

~ Barenaked Ladies,  lyrics to  “Told You So”

We’ve all been there, thinking we can control the outcome of someone’s destiny.  Trying so hard to help and hold on, but is it really helping you or the person you’re trying to “help”?  Oftentimes, we are only getting in the way of the lessons that require learning.  If someone you love has a path of many face plants, then you must accept that and let go of the illusion of control.  In most cases, the lesson will be learned.  If not, well, it was never your lesson to be responsible for in the first place.  It’s time to let it go….

On the flip side of this coin is YOU.  Only you can steer your ship, no one else.  You must be the one to pave your way, put the energy and work into your dreams, and drive to your destination.  However long it takes, no matter how many mountains you must cross, stay with your own journey and you will stake your flag at the end of the marathon.  This doesn’t mean that you don’t reach out for support along the way.  Those that truly care about you will be there for you, as you are there for them.  Gather support from your friends, family, loved ones, and all universal energy.  You will be well on your way to your dream fulfillment.

Allow those you love to experience their own path.  Release energy into your journey, let go and give Source the freedom to guide you, all the way to the finish line.  Namaste.