‘Living, Loving & Unlearning’ has been released! My hope is that this book will assist you in becoming the truth of who you are, lighting a path for you to travel your journey with comfort and ease as you move through the ups, the downs, and all the in-betweens.
To listen to the audio archive of this show simply click on “Healing and Moving On” under Adam’s photo….
Join Adam DeYoung and I on his Blog Talk Radio Show Tonight, 9:30pm EST (6:30pm Pacific). Adam will be interviewing me on addictions, self-love, abuse, forgiveness, unconditional love….Healing and Moving On…Hope to see you there! Peace to you, friends~
Some of the topics that we will be exploring, Addiction, Traumas, Physical Abuse/ Sexual Abuse, Forgiveness, Love, Unconditional Love. My Guest Speaker, Cindy Brennen, has her masters degree in Social Work and is licensed in the state of New York where she enjoys her private practice in counseling….
To listen to yesterday’s broadcast of Help, Hope and Healing, simply go to the category, “AM-WWLZ820 Talk Radio” and click on “Addictions and Healing through Self-Love with Cynthia Brennen, LMSW.” Peace….
“Whatever games are played with us, we must play no games with ourselves, but deal in our privacy with the last honesty and truth.”~Ralph Waldo Emerson
A client came into my office the other day, sat down, looked me in the eye and said, “I think I’m going crazy.” She proceeded to tell me that her intuition, and actions of her partner, are telling her old habits are creeping up again. She has no solid proof that her partner is into his addiction again, but it’s a feeling. She proceeds to tell me that every time she confronts him on it he gets defensive and turns it back around onto her.
When your intuition speaks, it is Spirit knocking at your door, giving you a wake up call. Trust in your own truth and allow self-care to follow. My client and I reviewed her own life lesson she is learning through this difficult time. Most importantly, she is aware that she cannot do the work for her partner or force him to make healthier choices. He has to have his own desire to change and do the work himself, just as my client needs to focus on herself and increase her own strength in making healthy choices. One choice may be getting out of an unhealthy relationship. As she does her own work, and begins the healing process, she will find that she is surrounded by like-minded, like-spirited people. We are all capable of creating our own happiness.
Be truthful with your heart and follow the messages it gives you. When we are honest with ourselves, we honor our purpose here on earth. Nurture the precious being that you are and refuse to allow anyone to abuse your kindness. Create your own world of joy, light and love, and watch it all unfold…
Remember Whitney Houston? One of my all time favorite voices, blessed with an innate raw talent. It’s amazing what addiction can do. Brings you to your knees. “I Will Always Love You” was written by Dolly Parton in 1973 and was brought back to life in 1992 when Whitney opened hearts with it in the film, The Bodyguard.Wishing you joy and love, Whitney…
Addiction is a nasty bug and once it gets its hooks in you it refuses to let go. Add in the ego which thrives on weakness, and you have a lethal dose of insanity. As the genius Albert Einstein reminded us many moons ago, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Many people have the misconception that ego is full of confidence and direction but it is quite the contrary. Ego is an insecure little child who wants what he wants and will stop at nothing to claim the attention that he craves. Often, attention one never received in his formative years. This starvation reaches toward outer avenues to feed the hunger. The mind trains itself (fostered by ego) to think that if I take that drink, or have sex, or eat that hot fudge sundae, or purge, all my problems will go away. Any of you stuck in this cycle know that it is, once again, a trick of the mind and a temporary fix that only gets worse and more chaotic down the road. When you wake up from your inflicted numbing your problems are still there and you’ve only created more problems feeding your addiction. How much energy does it take to cover your tracks? How much chaos have you created along the way? How many loved ones have you hurt keeping up with your craving? How much hurt have you inflicted upon yourself? There is hope. All this energy put into feeding this monster can be redirected and geared toward healthy choices in your life.
It has been said that you remain stagnate at the age you were when you first started using your “drug.” Growth cannot, and will not, occur until you get clean and mature with the tools you need to recover and claim a healthier lifestyle. The first step is admitting you have a problem. That is when humility steps up and pushes ego aside. The second step is reaching out and asking for help. There are many rehabilitation facilities and programs to assist you in staying on your course to sobriety. The third step is staying on your course, one day at a time. There is a better life for you if you take these steps and stay with it. This I can promise you. Allow Spirit to guide you, step outside of yourself, have faith, and your hope will not be lost.
Below are the 12 steps followed by many programs dealing with addiction. The steps were developed by Sam Shoemaker and Bill Wilson, originally printed in the book, Alcoholics Anonymous, back in 1939. It has saved more lives than can be counted.
The 12 Steps
Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over our addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable
Step 2 – Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God
Step 4 – Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
Step 5 – Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
Step 7 – Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings
Step 8 – Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all
Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others
Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
Step 11 – Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out
Step 12 – Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs